Frequent Death Questions
(FDQs)
We’ve compiled some of the most common questions for companions, caregivers, and healthcare professionals around the end of life. We’re slowly adding these as we can, so be sure to check back if you don’t see a question you have.
Better yet…email us at dttypod@gmail.com and tell us your question. We’ll try to answer as best we can. These answers are just our opinions and are not meant to be medical or therapeutic advice.
The Delicate Dance: When to Give Space vs. When to Show Up
It isn't about finding the perfect formula—it's about developing a sensitivity to the rhythms of someone else's experience.
What's Genuinely Helpful vs. What Just Makes Me Feel Better?
When we move past our own discomfort, we can offer something truly valuable.
How Do I Help My Children Understand and Spend Time with Their Dying Grandparent?
Age-appropriate honesty is crucial.
What Practical Things Should I Make Sure to Discuss or Document?
The key is starting with their priorities rather than your checklist.
How Do I Handle Conflicts with Siblings About Care Decisions?
The most effective approach I've witnessed is consistently returning to one central question…
What If My Parent Doesn't Want to Talk About Dying at All?
The key is learning to distinguish between someone who truly doesn't want to discuss their mortality and someone who's waiting for the right moment.
How Do I Balance My Own Life Responsibilities with Being Present for My Dying Parent?
Caregiving isn't just about preserving your own wellbeing—it's about honoring what your dying parent truly wants for you.
What's the Best Way to Ask About Their Final Wishes Without Being Morbid?
The secret isn't avoiding the topic of death—it's approaching it through the lens of what matters most to your parent right now.
How Do I Know When to Have the Hard Conversations with My Dying Parent?
The key is becoming fluent in the language of readiness.